They’re Even Monitoring My Birth Canal Now?

by Latina Fatale on 11/09/2010 · 0 comments

in Feminism, Motherhood

Today I had lunch with a close friend who happens to be in town where I am vacationing. We went to a nice little café and ended up staying there for a couple of hours discussing the upcoming birth of her child that will be happening in about two months. I mentioned to my friend that I had just recently had a massage and a facial, and she began to lament that she had to go to a professional to wax her legs because her belly was too big for her to shave her legs on her own. (Yikes).

Suddenly the lady at the next table turned around and began to ask my friend questions about when she was due and whether she was having a boy or a girl. Suddenly, the lady asked my friend, “Are you having a c-section or vaginal birth?” to which my friend responded, “C-section”.

“May I ask why?” the lady inquired. “You know that it is not good for the baby, right? There are benefits to the baby coming out of the birth canal”. She went on an on about all of the benefits.

My friend began to explain that she had previously had a c-section for medical reasons and that this time the doctor was recommending that she have another.

“Don’t you think that you should try to have a vaginal birth before immediately scheduling the c-section this time?” the lady asked her.

And my friend just kept explaining herself, although she looked uncomfortable.

Then the lady said, “Will you be breastfeeding?” My friend started to answer, and then I just suddenly couldn’t take it anymore and told the lady that I didn’t mean to be rude but that I haven’t seen my friend in a while and that I had to leave in a bit. So, nicely mind your own damn business, I wanted to say.

Later I asked my friend if it bothered her that the lady was browbeating her about having a c-section, and she told me that she has grown used to it because a lot of people have really pronounced opinions about c-sections.

I’m sorry, the last I checked, I thought that our uterus and birth canals are nobody’s business about our own.

I don’t have children, and it bothers me when I get stuck in the middle of conversations about pregnancy and childbirth that I think are really nobody’s business. I just can’t imagine ever turning to another woman who I don’t know to ask if she will be having a vaginal birth or a c-section.  I consider it to not be my business and I really could care less how their damn kid is born because I’m too busy worrying about my own vagina.

Mind your own business!

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